frequent masturbation sessions input neded especially female prospective
Posted Mon Oct 04, 2010 01:08 PM
was in need of to satisfy my lust. Now I have found myself in the same position this time I am using masturbation. I find my self jerking off at least 8 to 10
times a day. I find it so strange that I keep on getting the urge to have sex as much as I do. My wife works nights so she sleeping most of the time. That
used to be the case now I find myself doing it even when she is up and about the house. its a very strange thing i find myself watching porn or get the thought about something sexual and the urge comes and next thing you know I am pulling it out to get satisfaction. I tend to stimulate it long enough that I have a ton of my own juices that lubricate my hand good enough to get me going. I often explode then head to the bathroom to do a cleanup. My issue is the frequent time I feel the urge.
i want to approach her with the urges but it is hard enough to get regular sex with all that goes on, let alone to ask to get off 8-10 times and that was just between 8am and 2 pm.
is this normal is anyone else like this ? i know i am a easily stimulated individual but what the hell should I do? I have had a few encounters outside of the relationship and they get stranger and stranger the older I get, hence the reason why a want ot keep any contact extremely private and personal.
Posted Mon Oct 04, 2010 01:15 PM
Posted Tue Oct 05, 2010 08:43 AM
You talk about your wife yet your profile says you are single. Are you BSing us?
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 02:17 PM
No married. NO BS. just a sexual junkie, I dont know about most but if I dont have sex at least 1 to 2 times a day I find myself masturbating constantly which leads me to wad off about 4 maybe 5 times sometimes back to back. I have tried several times to get my wife in on the flow of things but have had no luck. Now I linked up with a few old friends mostly the really kinky freaky ones and have started, well lets just say I am doing things to relieve the anxiety and the tension.
I have had a lot of sexual experiences in my life time none of which I regret and most are juicy enough to share here, I used to be able to go out and talk shit with the guys but most of them have allowed our once in a blue time to go to pot, so here is my release. I sneak on post or read or am on a site jerking off. Although as I said I recently reconnected with a few female friends from the past. So maybe the wacking off will go down if I am able to release some tension. But I will keep posting it seems almost as if posting is not as gratifying as sex but it is therapy I guess.
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 08:12 PM
Regardless of the answer, I strongly suggest that you seek some sort of counseling. I genuinely do not mean this in a judgmental way, but that kind of compulsive behaviour is best dealt with by a professional, especially of it's leading to actions that are compromising your marriage.
It's not worth it. Deal with this responsibly instead.
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 08:43 PM
My question to all that read this including you, IS any of what I described really considered a marriage other than in the sense of on parchment and legally. Marriage I believe is based on love and feeling emotions effort and compromise. Is it a marriage when only I am the one in the compromising positions. How is it that if a woman would post anything similar and I have seen a few here NO one has ever made the comment of behavior and seeking counsel but rather consoling isn't that considered a double standard. I don't know about anyone else but I sure would like to know what others think. I am sure she is not sitting around waiting on me any more that an ice cube would last in hell.
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 08:54 PM
It was unclear that you no longer really consider her your wife other than legally.
I understand that completely. My husband was legally separated but still technically married to his first wife for the first 6 months of our relationship. She made the divorce very difficult, so it took a long time, but they were in no way married other than according to a piece of paper.
If your marriage is not an issue, then use your own judgment. If you feel your drive for sex is an issue for you, then maybe seeking help is a good idea. If you don't think it is an issue and just want reassurance that there are other people out there like you, then you've come to the right place.
As for me, the last break up I went through, I couldn't get enough sex. I was masturbating constantly every day and dated a guy for a few months whom I didn't even like that much just because he had amazing sexual stamina. For some reason, when I have gone through break ups in the past, I end up needing sex in an almost obsessive way, so I get where you're coming from.
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 09:07 PM
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 09:27 PM
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 09:48 PM
What's stopping you from getting a divorce? Do you and your wife have children? If so, do you and your wife care for your children equally? I can understand staying together if you have kids. Especially if they're very young. However, if you and your wife don't have any kids and are only married in the legal sense, why not get a divorce? Seems like you'd be happier instead of staying in a marriage that you don't consider to be a marriage any longer.
Finally, if you're masturbating a lot, there's not necessarily anything wrong with that. The only time it becomes an issue is when it interferes with your daily life. If you don't go to work or eat or bathe or hang out with your friends or watch your favorite TV shows because you're masturbating, then it's a problem because it gets in the way of the other regular stuff you'd normally be doing. Honestly, eight or ten times a day seems like a lot of masturbating to me.
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 11:35 PM
Posted Sat Dec 04, 2010 12:34 AM
This post has been edited by sambo2929: Sat Dec 04, 2010 12:37 AM
Posted Sat Dec 04, 2010 09:18 AM
I don't get sore ever I am not enormous either I would say average size 7 to 7 1/2 and maybe 3 to 3 1/2 in circumfrence. It does the job well. I recently connected with a few old female friends/ex lovers. I have not over exerted or over extended myself to anyone. I am no longer looking for the whloe life committment any longer. I have my kids and I have a life which with the people I intend to have relations is all required to fit the bill. In other words at this point in my life I am just looking to enjoy myself and if some calls what I was doing exploring myself then ok so be it, just know that through exploration comes discovery. I intend to do my best to give my best and my all to whomever chooses to allow beautiful times, personal and private discreet is all anyone can ask for.
This post has been edited by ricolongz: Sat Dec 04, 2010 09:20 AM