A lil question
Posted Wed Oct 04, 2006 05:12 PM
My buddy is dating this girl that is 4'11 90lbs and he has a problem with her. He says when he goes to have intercourse with her, that it gets about halfway in and then she cant go ne farther (he said hes like 6.5in). She told him that it was hitting something and not letting it go ne farther. IMO i said its the state of mind. Any opinions or thoughts? He says he warms her up for like 15 20 min but it still wont work...Thanks yall...I love SF.Com's members.
Posted Wed Oct 04, 2006 05:27 PM
Posted Wed Oct 04, 2006 05:28 PM
It sounds like she either may be too tense, or possibly have a problem. My x-wife had a tumor surrounding her cervix, maybe it is something along those lines.
Posted Wed Oct 04, 2006 07:37 PM
Posted Thu Oct 05, 2006 12:05 PM
Does anyone know of any techniques to loosen a woman up?
Posted Thu Oct 05, 2006 12:48 PM
Here is some info I found on the below link that kind of sums it up.
Painful sexual intercourse, called dyspareunia in medical terminology (pronounced "dis-pair-une-ee-ah"), is a common complaint among women seeking gynecologic care.
Common causes include:
a restrictive upbringing, in which the woman was brought up to view sex as nasty or dirty or wicked.
an upbringing in which the woman was somehow given the idea that the vagina is very narrow, and that sex must be very painful.
a background where rape or childhood sexual abuse has taken place. Experiences like these understandably make women fearful of sex, and of being hurt.
painful vaginal infections.
unease with the partner - perhaps at an unconscious level.
On the physical side of it..
Problems with your cervix. The man's penis hits the cervix at maximum penetration. So infections of the cervix and 'raw' places on it can cause pain during deep penetration.
Womb trouble. Various womb disorders, including fibroids, can cause deep intercourse pain.
Endometriosis. This very common disorder often affects the womb and surrounding tissues. The 'poking' of a penis on a tender area of endometriosis may cause intense, deep pain.
Ovary problems. Cysts on the ovary can cause deep pain. Pain may also be caused if the tip of the penis hits an unusually positioned ovary.
Pelvic inflammatory disease. This is caused by infection, and is becoming more common in the UK - largely thanks to the 'bug' called chlamydia. The tissues deep inside become badly inflamed, and the pressure of intercourse causes deep pain.
Ectopic pregnancy. This means a pregnancy outside the womb - usually in the Fallopian tube. Pressure on it can be very painful.
What about more superficial pain?
Pain that is nearer the outside of the vagina can also be caused by vaginismus (see above). However, there can be many other possible causes.
Lack of lubrication
This can be due to nervousness, hang-ups and failure to relax. Unskilled 'foreplay' by the man is a common cause - especially when the foreplay doesn't go on long enough. (Many women would like half an hour - but don't get it!)
Menopausal or post-menopausal dryness
This is usually due to a fall in female sex hormones. Treatment with HRT pills or (more directly) hormone cream will usually put matters right. And ordinary sex lubricants will help too.
These are very common. The one that huge numbers of women get is thrush. But there are numerous others, such as trichomonas.
Sadly, injury to the vulva or vagina can occur during rape or sexual assault - and later cause dyspareunia. Much more commonly, injury is caused by a childbirth tear - or the cut (episiotomy) that is so often made during labour. (Badly healed stitching can often cause pain.)
These are awfully common in these days of fairly promiscuous sex. Sometimes the warts can cause pain.
This means inflammation of the vulva (the opening to the vagina). It can be due to all sorts of causes, including chemicals in bubble-baths or soaps.
Haematoma of the clitoris
I first encountered this about 30 years ago, but it's still not widely known. It's a bruise (or collection of blood) in the clitoris, caused by excessive friction.
This is a tender patch that develops at the urinary opening.
Foreign body in the vagina
The usual culprit is a forgotten tampon. It may cause pain, especially if the tampon causes an infection.
A rare cause of intercourse pain. But it must be borne in mind in a woman who develops this kind of pain for the first time after the age of 40.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
Tips for Chronic Vulvar Pain Management