Girlfriend can't do anal due to pain
Posted Mon Oct 25, 2010 07:31 PM
The other day we were having sex for about 2 hours and trying many different things. I almost fisted her and put one finger up her ass. I tried two but she told me to stop. After that I asked her why it hurt so much and admitted that I felt guilty for going too hard the last time we did anal. She told me she didn't remember me hurting her during sex and the pain comes from inside her ass. It's not her sphinter. She said it felt fine before.
Can someone help?
Posted Mon Oct 25, 2010 08:05 PM
Posted Mon Oct 25, 2010 08:07 PM
There are lots of places online she can do a "self-test" and narrow down some symptoms, like webmd.
Posted Mon Oct 25, 2010 10:40 PM
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Posted Tue Oct 26, 2010 01:37 PM
Posted Mon Nov 01, 2010 02:40 PM
I would maybe see a doctor as some point (especially if the pain is severe or if it continues after sex), but your doctor will most likely ask you some of these same questions. If you see a doctor, you'll want to be as specific as possible about the type of pain she feels (throbbing pain, stabbing pain, dull pain, etc.), where she feels it, when she feels it, and when it stops.
Posted Mon Nov 01, 2010 08:36 PM
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Posted Mon Nov 08, 2010 06:41 PM
My ex was really interested in trying anal sex, but I had had a bad experience with it in the past. I could tell that he was completely fascinated though, so I decided to give it another try. No matter how slow we took it, it was painful and I hated it.
My husband on the other hand never wanted anal, we just sort of started trying anal play on one vacation and discovered that we love it.
I know that the difference for me was that with my ex I never felt 100% comfortable and I felt pressure, even though he was never pushy, I knew that he wanted anal so badly that I just couldn't help but feel pressured to like it for his sake. It's not that he did anything wrong, that's just the way I felt.
Because my husband put no pressure on me whatsoever, I was finally able to completely relax. It also helped that we only started anal play after a marathon day of many hours of sex and red wine.
I don't know if this helps you, but as a woman who loves anal sex and now has it 1-2 times a week, I can say that it's all about feeling comfortable enough to relax completely.
Posted Tue Nov 09, 2010 08:41 PM