I have trouble getting turned on..
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 02:16 AM
Now we are married...and let me tell you, things just haven't been like I've expected. Rarely do I get aroused. I love my husband to death, love kissing him, hugging him, being around him, and we are best friends. I find him extremely sexually attractive as well. However, I just don't really get aroused! This makes it hard for me to have orgasms and it really gets me down.
My theory on the whole thing is that now that we are "allowed" to have sex, it totally has lost it's excitement for me. Another part of it could be, my husband and I have almost no experience since we got married as virgins...maybe we aren't trying the right things?? But I don't know, I was a hell of a lot more easy to please before we got married.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 04:01 AM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 05:17 AM
Perhaps the routine of your normal, everyday lives has made sex predictable? Change it. Communicate with each other, try going away for a weekend - doesn't have to be far or expensive (perhaps a dodgy motel is all you need ), and talk openly about your sex life.
It often surprises me how many couples there are that find it difficult to talk about sex. Sex is a natural part of life & should hold no shame for anyone (not implying that this is you - just a general observation).
My opinion is that it is best to communicate with each other, talk openly and try things.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 01:31 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 04:15 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 06:16 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 06:36 PM
One thing that gets my girl really turned on is when I get very dominat and agressive, but knowing that if she says to ill stop if i do something she doesn't like. I wrote a story about one we're planning on doing when we go on our vacation for a week... ill post the link on the bottom here.
Try wearing something that is just so naughty it makes you horny from wearing it. Maybe grab a crotchless thong from Fredericks or some lingerie store and wear it under a short skirt for him, then let him find the suprise underneath. That's something naughty enough that it would probably turn you on just from doing it.
Just get creative. But also get in touch have a long intimate conversation with him in bed one night discuss your wildest fantasies and stuff you just really long to do but maybe you couldn't ever bring yourself to do. Talking dirty is also usually a big turn on in bed, for both sexes.
Maybe since the religious thing was such a taboo you could be, say, a catholic school girl and pretend you're not married and let him seduce you and fuck your brains out playing that you're not actually married to him.
My girl and I have both found LOTS of arousal from role plays... just dont let yourself get to the point that you HAVE to do something like that to get aroused.
Here's the story I wrote about our fun we'll be having in about 2 weeks
Hope some of these suggestions work
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 06:44 PM
There might be an answer in this question. What form of birth control (if any) are you using? Hormonal birth control does reduce libido in some women.
Also, have you started taking a new medication? There are other meds other than birth control that can cause this, too.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 06:58 PM
Not all girls can have an orgasm through penetration so don't think it is your or your partners fault. Just experiment a little. try letting him massage the clitoris with his hand to get use to giving you an orgasm that way then let him inter you and then let him massage your clitoris while screwing you.
Good luck discocole69
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 07:00 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 07:09 PM
I have turned a new leave everybody and I will try to give people good advice without sounding like I am bragging about what I can or can't do.
See ya. biggie.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 07:33 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 08:21 PM
I am feeling a little tender right now and I care about what I say to people right now and I do not want to hurt any bodies feeling but I really don't care if I am the one being cracked on.
God Bless bro.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 08:24 PM
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 08:31 PM
I am a softy at heart and even may tear up watching a sad part in a movie or TV show.
I guess that makes me a punk.
Posted Mon Oct 16, 2006 10:16 PM
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Posted Tue Oct 17, 2006 01:38 AM