she says i need to do "more"
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Posted Wed Nov 17, 2010 01:42 AM
but foreplay plays a big role. dont be scared of pleasing your girl. its def not a plus. get in touch with yourself so that you are able to do more/ put more of an effort in at whatever you doing. multi task.... she probably likes to get her breast sucked on.
Posted Wed Nov 17, 2010 05:12 PM
But I think the real problem here is that you're being predictable. Everyone likes a certain amount of rhythm to their life, but when it comes to sex it needs to be exciting and fun. Remember back to when you first had sex, think about what was so exciting about it and try to replicate that now.
So, try to be unpredictable. Try teasing her: pull her aside while she's doing something else that day (while she's doing college/uni/whatever work, making herself lunch, watching TV - almost anything) and kiss her. Touch her face, stroke her neck and back (a cheeky [lol] ass-pinch mightn't hurt, either), then just walk away with a smile. You don't even have to say anything, and this will take up less than five minutes of your time but she'll be thinking about it all day.
Have fun while you're in bed, and realise that not every physical contact has to be sexual. I got into a tickle fight with my GF the other night where even the threat of tickling her sent her into fits of giggles, we ended up spending the next hour or more just lying in bed and holding each other. This sort of thing is important - it releases all sorts of chemicals into the brain that just make you feel good and increase the mental connection with the other person.
And lastly, when you do get to fingering or licking her, never go straight for the prize. Especially if she's literally pushing you down there - that just means you're doing everything right Tease her more, get her really excited and wait until you're ready to go for it - part of the excitement of having someone go down on you is the feeling of them being in control of you, so be in control. Another interesting technique a friend taught me was to use your tongue to (gently) draw each letter of the alphabet in sequence over her clit. That keeps every stroke different and unpredictable, and if you run out of letters you can always resort to numbers. I know my GF also likes it when I start tonguing her labia for a few seconds, too
Anyway, hopefully some of this helps. I've only been having sex for a couple of years now, but this is all stuff that I've learned in that time