Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 10:40 PM
I was married for 10 years to a man who did all the foreplay. I am now starting to date again and need advice bad. I dont know the first thing about how to please a man. I want to turn him on and just send him into a frenzy. But I dont know how. I dont want the advice like: all men are different or do what feels good or listen to him or watch him or ask him. I Want To Do It!! point blank. So please tell me, in detail, things that I can do to make all his dreams come true. Please. this is very important to me. Only serious advice. In Explicit detail.
Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 10:56 PM
Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 11:07 PM
Just try to lick, kiss and suck his entire body before doing anything and go by his reactions to figure out what he likes and don't like.
Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 11:26 PM
Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 11:37 PM
Caress him and do nice things to him. Run your fingers through his hair, kiss his face, say sweet things. Give him some attention on his chest, shoulders, neck, etc. You can make him all yours before you ever reach for him down there.
One thing I always tell other women is to go with the things you feel like doing, cuz he's going to like them too. Feel like nibbling his ears? Or sucking his tongue? Or undressing him button by button? Go ahead.
Posted Tue Oct 31, 2006 11:43 PM
Remember too that I was married, so I am not a complete dummy. I am just wanting to be more outgoing and fun with all of this. I cant find any help. And as I said before, I need detailed advice.
Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 12:05 AM
I feel like...
I wish I could...
I'm going to...
___ me until ___
My ___ is...
Your ___ is...
The way you...
The only way you can fill in the blanks is when you are feeling it. Your voice is an extension of your body when you are having sex. You can't recite lists of words you saw in a book. Sitting calmly next to him while you're giving him a hand job is not the best time to try to talk dirty. The pleasure has to force it out of you. The dirtiest talk should surprise you too.
Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 02:37 AM
Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 03:03 AM
yeah, some of the things are just not realistic, but ... some are. Might want to start with Cinemax after dark kind of stuff (soft porn) to get the foreplay down, but then go for the hardcore stuff. Go to your local adult movie store and if the person behind the counter looks trustable, tell them your problem. They've likely watched a lot of those movies. And if they steer you in the wrong direction, are you gonna come back? No, so they will try to help you.
Heck, you might want to look in the multimedia section here for some ideas...
I do know one thing that drives my man nuts and that is deep throating. You put your mouth over his cock and get as much of it in your mouth as you can, when it bumps against the back of your throat, push more so it goes further in. Hold it there, its the gag reflex you are waiting on. Drives them crazy. Just, let him go when you can't breathe anymore or you think you will do more than just... gag.
Hope this helps
Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 07:43 PM
Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 08:38 PM
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Posted Wed Nov 01, 2006 09:33 PM
To be honest any woman that feels sex to herself is a big turn on, so what makes you feel hot?
It's hard giving specifics, but with foreplay its nice if you take it slow, and feel sexy and liberated.