How many of you are fit women that like overweight guys?
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 11:40 AM
Obviously, she has certain body types within the husky category that she prefers and some she isn't attracted to at all, but she is much more attracted to heavier men than to lean men.
My closest friend is a large, tall and heavier man, and he always dates very slim, very short, and very pretty women. He seems to always find the women that others see as way out of his league, but they find him sexy.
He does have a very handsome face and is quite tall and broad shouldered, so he does have a real impact when he walks in a room, but he is definitely clearly overweight and not very fit.
My brother used to be nearly 300lbs due to health issues, but he is one of the most brilliant, clever, and quick witted people I've ever met. Even at his fattest, laziest, and unemployed, he's always had good looking women after him.
Granted, he too has a very handsome face, and a very broad build, so he carries his weight well, but at his biggest, he was obviously quite overweight. That didn't stop fit and pretty women from hitting on him.
These are just a few anecdotal examples, but that's what you're going to get by asking the question.
What exactly did you expect to prove?
Did you expect a ton of fit women to post "oh good god no! I could never be with someone so disgusting as to be less fit than myself!!!"
Plenty of thinner women are attracted to heavier guys, just as plenty of fit guys are attracted to heavier women.
None of this takes away from the fact that living a healthy lifestyle including regular exercise is important, it just doesn't change the fact that people who are inactive and overweight are still considered attractive by some who are fit and active.
No one is forcing any fit person to be attracted to an unfit person.
Besides, I know plenty of thin people who are incredibly unfit and lead unhealthy lifestyles that will result in earlier morbidity and mortality.
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 12:11 PM
I expected to hear no woman would be attracted to heavy guys
Me I don't like skinny girls
IMO when a girl is naked on her back with the rib cage popping out like a skelton isn't right either just need more meat
not saying she could be the most wonderful person in the world tho
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 12:18 PM
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 12:28 PM
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 02:19 PM
So what about all the overweight men who want a fit, beautiful woman? Or do they not exist? And then they sit and complain they're not getting laid because they won't lower their expectations. I see this more often than I see an overweight woman who wants a fit man.
We've established that you have a serious problem with women.
I have yo-yo'ed in weight all my life, but have never been severely overweight. I carried (and still do) some extra meat on my bones, and i've dated both skinny and chubby men.
I do NOT want a man who is unable to keep up with my lifestyle, so that probably means he should be at least somewhat fit and able-bodied.
I consider myself a moderately good looking girl, I have no problem at all meeting guys. And the man that I fell hardest for in my entire life with was slightly overweight when I met him. He even had man-boobs and I didn't care. He was extremely intelligent and funny, two of the most important things. It didn't work out, but not because of his weight.
ETA: Weight has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of fit women who do not care either way. I'm not sure that there are women who specifically want an overweight man. But then again, there's probably are. But I think as a general rule, people just want to meet somebody they find attractive that they get along with. Why make it more complicated than that?
This post has been edited by ♪♫Lyrical♫♪: Sun Jan 09, 2011 02:25 PM
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 02:38 PM
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 02:50 PM
In other words, no apologies for being herself.
Posted Sun Jan 09, 2011 02:52 PM
Posted Mon Jan 10, 2011 12:54 PM
This thread is a re-boot of another, a thread that got rather heated at times. Our original poster maintains that a person who is overweight should not strive for the attentions of someone who is physically fit. His reasoning? Because an overweight person doesn't deserve a fit lover/spouse: their weight problem is more of a character flaw than a physical condition, and any fit person should not even consider being with someone who is beneath them in terms of discipline, willpower, work ethic and health consciousness. This thread seems to be an attempt to shore up his argument with statistical data.
Am I right so far, TryingToBeAnonymous?
We simply cannot restrict ourselves to such rigid guidelines when choosing a mate/partner/lover. Looking at a woman who is fit and tight may be great, and I might feel real good about myself for winning such a prize specimen, but I like music, and movies, and laughing, and tennis, and books, and sex, and discussions about philosophy, politics, human relations- a variety of things. Looking at a woman who is fit and tight may not be enough to keep my interest when our conversations revolve around body fat percentages, rotating gym schedules, the cover stories of the six bodybuilding magazines she subscribes to, visiting the fitness equipment store the way most people browse the mall- hitting four different shops before choosing which supplements to get....
This is meant to be an exaggeration, but fundamentalists of any creed are mind-numbingly boring. I'm a musician; I love it, and I'm quite good, but I have been known to go for hours, even days without talking about my work. This is because it's only one facet of me. I cannot say to someone I claim to be attracted to:
"one aspect of who you are- your physical fitness/attractiveness- is the single most important element of our relationship, and if it changes to any discernible degree, you are no longer worthy to be with me, so I'll be gone"
We don't earn friends and lovers based on what we look like; we earn them by how we treat them, how we value them. Love, caring, concern, support- bench presses and aerobics don't increase our capacity for such things.
Your body will change, TryingToBeAnonymous, as you already know- because your body did change, without your permission, approval or control. How would you have reacted if the loves in your life- lover, friend, parent, sibling, child- informed you, "Well, gee- you're over 22% body fat, buddy. We just just can't hang..."
How will you react when- not if, when- your metabolism changes, and the fitness level you are so understandably proud of becomes harder to maintain? How will you react when your priorities change, and four days at the gym seem less important with your career, lover, maybe children wanting, needing more of your time and attention?
Will you be able to maintain your sense of self, of who you are without (or, with less of) the crunches and curls, the stationary bikes and StairMasters? Would push yourself even harder, trying to will yourself back to who you were, what you looked like at 19, 25, risking injury? Most health clubs post a sliding scale of suggested workouts based on age; will you be able to heed them, or will you cling to the notion that "if I don't stay strong and trim, I won't deserve the people I love"?
You want to believe that your fitness regimen makes you a better person, and it can, in some ways. But your posts when dealing with this subject have been bitter, argumentative, prejudicial, condescending- not exactly 'better person' stuff.
I would not choose to be around someone that unhappy- no matter how they filled out a tank top.
This post has been edited by ScottyWright: Mon Jan 10, 2011 12:58 PM
Posted Mon Jan 10, 2011 02:46 PM
Posted Mon Jan 10, 2011 11:14 PM
However, there are some men (including 1 past boyfriend) who I have found attractive who happened to be overweight; but that's not what was asked...
This post has been edited by cocoa70: Mon Jan 10, 2011 11:16 PM
Posted Mon Jan 10, 2011 11:32 PM
I am a skinny dude and have often been attracted to women who are not sticks.
Posted Wed Jan 12, 2011 05:25 PM
And in relation to what Tenyn said about being hairy, I had a boyfriend that had almost no hair on his chest but the hairiest stomach I have ever seen, and I liked it! It was fun and the emotional connection between us was just so much deeper nothing outside mattered. It just made me like him more