I'm very jealous
Posted Thu Jan 27, 2011 11:10 PM
I look at the pix in the couples forum, and see what fun you guys are having. The wife and I have sex, on average, once every week and a half for the last 6 weeks. Before that it was once a month (if I was lucky). The only reason we are having sex more often is that I think she's afraid to lose me. We got into a big fight, at which I said that I came this close (fingers spread one inch apart) to having an affair on her because I wasnt getting what I need. We have been fucking more since then, but its still the same old. "We can have a quickie." all the damn time. I get jealous seeing the pix of the couples having fun, doing things I know my wife won't even consider doing. I need more variety in my life, and an electronic medium is only a panacea, regardless of how good the orgasms are when I jerk off while viewing this place.
The thread that has gotten me the most lately is this one...http://www.sexforums.com/topic/85034-husband-and-i/
Look at those third, fourth and sixth pictures. That's what I want my sex life to be like. But she won't go there.
Posted Thu Jan 27, 2011 11:24 PM
I guess all I can say is that it comes mostly from a good relationship and trust. We haven't always had that and I think every couple goes through issues and either decides to stay together or bolts. In our case we have a beautiful wonderful 2 year old son. When he was born he had colic for several months and we almost called it quits. In fact we separated for a month. There was no time for sex and the stress was incredible because we didn't know what was wrong with the baby. But we knew we had a reason to be together and we have a great amount of respect for each other.
I can also say there is a direct correlation between my desire to have sex with my husband and his attention/emotions towards me. The more admiration/love/respect he shows me, the more I want to rock his world. It ebbs and flows and sometimes is more and sometimes is less. But right now we are really enjoying ourselves and looking forward to Valentine’s day.
Posted Thu Jan 27, 2011 11:28 PM
The couple you referenced is very nice to look at. I rather enjoyed their pictures as well.
Posted Fri Jan 28, 2011 06:57 AM
thank you for bringing that thread to my attention. There is really something special about those pictures.
About your original post, I'd like to share a bit of my experience in the subject.
I love sex, a lot of it. When I was younger, I thought I needed a "fix" partner, that ONE guy, so that I could have all the sex I wanted. And I had one. The SO figure.
Curiously, though, I never had so little sex (quantity) as when I'm with ONE partner. It's really puzzling. My experience with men is that, at first, they're delighted to have someone like me. We fuck like rabbits, in all positions, all kind of sex, all over the house and beyond. Then, it "wears" off. They settle, they don't have the time. We still fuck, but they can't be bothered to make a bit of an effort to have more sex, and variety of sex.
I've never cheated. Normally, I'm into group sex. But I don't cheat. I do it if the guy is in it, too. My partners (the SO ones), were very eager to have 3somes of the FMF type, but that was it. I don't mind it, I like it. But I like VARIETY. And quantity. So, I give the guy as many FMF as he wants. All I expect of the guy is that he fucks me as much as at the beginning of our relationship. I don't like going through cock withdrawal symptoms. I need a cock at my disposal, to suck, lick, sit on top of it, get it into my ass, etc. I'll spoil it rotten, so to speak, but I want its presence. I'm really disappointed to feel the guy not bothering about sex at all, unless on those "special" occasions. What about my quantity? I need to fuck everyday, if possible, at least two, three times a day. I need sucking a cock before sleep. It helps with my chronic insomnia.
So, I stop with the group dynamics, to make the guy feel comfortable (unless it's FMF, which they all wanna keep having), but then, I want him to provide me sex. Be it FMF or something else. I don't care what it is. But I wanna have access to a cock (his cock, then) everyday. I'd even settle for every other day, if I really had to. And I don't wanna feel like I'm begging for cock, made feel abnormal, inadequate. I don't wanna have to feel guilty, because I want sex. Didn't he want at the beginning? What has changed? I didn't change. Nothing changed, but the guy's sex drive.
It's never happened. And I'm with a problem. By then the guy's become "jealous", so, I can't go back to my "group" activities. But he doesn't "provide". Mind you, he knew how I am and he used to find it nice to have a partner with a sex appetite.
How it ends? I quit. And I'm very reluctant to get into "monogamous" relationships again. I've tried. Right now, I'm kind of trying. I'm not entirely happy: this week, I was left 3 days without cock. That's not normal. But there was a reason, so, with this one, I'm still trying to make it work.
You may be thinking I'm shallow, to quit because of sex. But sex is important to me. And it goes without saying, the fact he knew how I was, how much sex was part of my life, and deceived me into "promising" he'd be "enough"... it's deception (I'm not talking about the guy I'm "with" now, but in general, about past experiences). I'm very honest with a man.
When I'm alone, I can always (well, most times) get a cock when I want one. I call a fuck buddy, I jog or drive to a fuck buddy's place, and I get my cock fix. I have men I can call at 2 am and say "can't sleep", and the guy comes over for a good fuck, or I drive to his place. But, curiously, with those SOs, a guy sleeping on my bed, I can't wake him up at 2 for sex. At the beginning or a relationship, yes. Guy's all happy to wake up by having his cock growing hard in my mouth. But it wears off. "Oh, I've got work tomorrow morning". Why wasn't it an issue, say, two months prior?
When I'm alone, I get fuck buddies calling at 1:30, 2 am (they know of my chronic insomnia) and asking if they can call in. It's so nice! Sex, sex, sex... guys who make an effort, cocks plenty... 3somes of all kinds, 4somes... sub, dom... sex!
So, bottom line: what is it with relationships? And why are we supposed to just repress our sexual needs, as if they weren't important? Everything is important, but sex?
Posted Fri Jan 28, 2011 07:48 AM
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Posted Fri Jan 28, 2011 07:58 PM
this question or problem comes up sooooooooo often with in this forum. I give you the same advice i give everyone else that comes in saying their girls wont give them enough sex.
Talk to her, maybe she isn't enjoying having sex, thus she only wants you to get in get off and get out and on with her day. Maybe that is what having sex with you has become to her. Do you ever just take care of her on a night? Do you show her and her lovely lady parts a lot of attention? Do you make her orgasm like you do?
If you don't know or the answer is no, maybe thats where the problem is, she isn't getting what she needs, and she doesn't want to hurt you by telling you or bringing it up! This has usually been the problem with me and not wanting to have sex. I cant demand a man pay attention to my sexual needs, and yes its hard to bring up sometimes. So i would just stay out the relationship and hope it got better, if it didn't id move on. However, while still in the relationship the sex would be weeks apart or sometimes a month apart in frequency.
This all comes from a lack of communication though. So i suggest you get with your lady and you talk to her about how you are feeling and how she is feeling. I also wouldn't put your unhappiness on her shoulders, that is unfair to her. You are in this together, both needs need to be met and discussed.
Posted Fri Jan 28, 2011 08:23 PM
Valentines Day seems like a great opportunity to do something spectacular to try to jump start things.