Question about Orgasms
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 11:00 AM
Hello people, I don't really know how to word this so bare with me. I have had orgasms before, not that often but I have had them. But what I DO seem to have a lot are mini orgasms. It's really quick and feels pretty good but only for a second and it makes me throb, but I don't get the euphoric feeling afterwards. I always get them when I masturbate, and a lot when I just have sex. So my question is, are there levels to orgasms? The feeling that I get most times, could that even be considered an orgasm, also are there any other women who have the same thing going on?
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 12:35 PM
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 01:12 PM
Also, a little 420 certainly helps improve orgasms. The feeling is much more intense. It could give the euphoria you are seeking alongside the increased physical pleasure. For the obvious reasons, I can't directly tell you to buy or use the 420, so consider that a disclaimer for covering my own ass.
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 02:20 PM
I don't know if this will work for you or not, but it might be worth a try. When you say you have a lot of 'mini orgasms', I'm assuming you get them one after the other, sort of like multiple mini orgasms. If this is correct, then the next time you masturbate, try to hold them off. Don't let yourself have one...just build up to the point where you feel it starting, and then back off until it begins to subside a little. And then bring it on again. Keep doing this for a while and then let it happen. If I'm right (and this is only a guess on my part) is this will cause the orgasmic energy to build up in your body, which, when released will cause a much larger orgasm. This is something that guys do to prolong sex, whether it be masturbation or intercourse, to provide more pleasure for there partner and for themselves. I've also tried doing this with my wife many years ago, to improve the quality of her orgasms, with some success.
I'm suggesting you try this when you are by yourself mainly because when you are with a partner, you should focus on enjoying that experience. When you are alone is a better time to experiment and learn about your body. If it works for you by yourself, you should be able to apply this to your partnered activities with good results.
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 02:34 PM
Posted Sat Jan 29, 2011 11:17 PM
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 07:47 AM
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 03:16 PM
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 10:20 PM
No, it's not funny, not when you think about it some. Many guys try to learn about a woman's sexual response for the purpose of being able to provide pleasure to their partners. In my case, I've learned a great deal from reading, and a great deal from experience. I've been with my wife for 36 years, so you can assume that we've tried a number of things and talked a lot about sex, from both of our perspectives.
JayEll asked for some advice, so Kinkycouple, The Streaker and myself took the time to pass on some suggestions based on our knowledge and experience. She is perfectly able to evaluate this advice and free to try it, or to ignore it. As women are very different in there likes and dislikes, I'm sure there will be a lot of different ideas and suggestions, so JayEll will have to take the time to explore each until she finds her answer. The fact that she's asking the question and is willing to search for it practically guarantees that she will find it. If one of us presents an idea that helps, I don't think she'll care where it came from.
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:10 PM
In the process of learning to have multiple dry prostate orgasms I have learned alot about womens orgasms. The process of mentally preparing myself to experience orgasmic pleasure, learning to feel my prostate, controling the muscles that squeeze it and nuturturing the sensations so I can have orgasm after orgasm is very similar to my wife's experience of multiple orgasms. Having mmos has made me a better lover as I now can directly experience and understand how she has an orgasm(s). A p spot orgasm is similar to a g spot orgasm. The only difference is a woman is limited to a couple of dozen orgasms over 20 or 30 minutes...I can have hundreds of orgasms over two or three hours.
This post has been edited by tenyn: Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:13 PM
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:14 PM
Posted Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:32 PM
That changes things a little bit. When you masturbate and feel one of these 'mini orgasms', do you stop, or do you continue? If you stop, you might want to try continuing on for some time. This could be just a small peak, one in a series on the way to a larger one. If you have tried to continue on and have not gotten anywhere, then you might have to try to hold off that first one as long as you can. Let it build up until it's unbearable.
On the other hand, you might not be having orgasms at all. When my wife (girlfriend at the time) and I started having sex, we both thought she was having orgasms. She said sex felt good, and she loved making love, so we both assumed everything was great. But we discovered several months later that she hadn't been having orgasms when she finally had one. What you are describing has some similarities to what she experienced. If that's the case, then you are probably not having orgasms at all. But this doesn't really matter that much right now anyway. You are currently enjoying your sex life, and you are willing to explore new areas, so don't worry whether you are having orgasms or not. My earlier suggestion still applies, except I'll add this. If you have a compassionate and caring partner, you might want to consider involving him in this 'quest'; I'm sure he'll enjoy it too. Just don't make sex all about having an orgasm. Sex is about sharing yourself and your pleasure with your lover and sharing with them, their pleasure.
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 01:54 PM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:21 PM