great .....but whats wrong ??
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 02:58 AM
i have recently broke up with my girlfriend of more than 2 years and in that time we did been on and off a few times and this breakup was mutual. but i later did feel sad and upset about it.also i hadnt been doing so well in my studies at which i always used to be quite good.however this weekend i was hanging out with my friend who also happens to be a hot chick...but we are completely platonic friends only.however after a few rounds of drinks and sometime later we did end up having sex...it was the best sex i ever had...we did it twice in a row and i am still exhausted from last night...though the sex was good somehow it lacked the emotion and connection there is with someone you are involved.i couldnt have had any better sex but it felt more mechanical and physical rather than what i thought it did be...she also said it was the best she had...we had been going on for more than two hours....but she did feel me a bit distracted in some moments
did anyone have such experiences ???
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 04:04 AM
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 07:08 AM
The only time I had sex with a good female friend it was a complete and utter disaster, fortunately we put it behind us and stayed friends. Not sure if our respective spouses ever suspected.
However if you have never seen this female in that light before then maybe there is a basis for a relationship. Try a date where there is no opportunity for sex, visit a monument or go out for lunch (not dinner) and see if the same spark is repeated. Sex is great and cements a relationship but it can never be the basis for one as the novelty will wear off.
But you never know, you may have lots in common, only time will tell you that. Meantime, take you pleasure where you find it.
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 12:30 PM
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 07:05 PM
Thats how many one night stands are and how many friends with benefits are, the emotional side of the sex is distant, and for a reason. Typically you are not wanting or trying to connect with them on that level, it usually leads to relationships that aren't mutually wanted, or awkward feelings later because one party becomes attached and the other doesn't. Thats when friends with benefits doesn't work, both parties have to stay emotionally unattached.
Then its all about the physical part of sex and if that was the best ever, great!!! i am glad you enjoyed yourself and had a good time while doing it. Dont feel that you messed it up because there wasn't any emotion behind it. Don't ruin the relationship you have with your friend by trying to read into that way and trying to make there be emotion. It doesn't always have to be there.
Yes, after you lose or part ways with someone you gave 2 years of your life to, its going to be a bit difficult at times, even if the split is a mutual
Posted Mon Feb 07, 2011 07:11 PM
After we split i hung out with a guy that came up to my work often and we had become really good friends over the past year or so. He was in the military and didn't want a relationship and it worked for us, the sex wasn't amazing the first time we had it, but it got better as we kept fucking each other. Then one day he shipped out and that was that. I moved on to a new person to satisfy my sexual cravings and we were just friends and stayed that way, though he wanted it to be more, and i told him i didn't want it to be anything more than sex. Eventually we stopped hanging out, and once again i moved on.... so forth and so on until Dale walked along.
But until dale came along, the sex was pretty empty emotionally, but it was pleasing physically.
There is my personal experience for ya!
Posted Wed Feb 09, 2011 04:46 AM
i am quite in a hurry right now.....gonna update about my situation asap
Posted Wed Feb 09, 2011 10:23 AM
well whats done is done and i hope lets hope for the best...right now i am looking towards the future with an open mind
Posted Wed Feb 09, 2011 02:03 PM