My girlfriend (18) and I (20) have been in a relationship for roughly 2 years. I was her first, and she was mine as well. In the beginning, we were very sexually active. We would have sex or give each other pleasure in other ways just to make the other happy, even if it was inconvenient or tiring. We would generally get busy at least twice a week. Lately, we haven't been having sex much at all, or doing anything sexually intimate for that matter. For perspective, I haven't got off (from anything but masturbation) for two and a half months. I had gone three/four months before that incident as well.
A week or so ago, we were alone and I gave her a sensual back rub, which led to my hands going other places, etc. Long story short, she got off. Now, believe me, I'm not so immature as to believe that all sexuality has to be tit-for-tat, as it were, but she never reciprocated. I asked her about it afterward, asking if she could help me out, to which she replied no. I accepted it for the moment. Normally, no big deal, right? But this was the third time it happened.
Today, we were alone again, and we were cuddling on my bed and I started trying to put the moves on, but she stopped me and said she didn't want to do anything today. I probed a little more, and just joking (mainly) I asked her to blow me instead of having sex. She declined. When I asked why, she answered that she thought it was gross. She went on to explain that she was grossed out by the fact that urine also comes from the penis. She was still being tentative about it, so thinking she was on the edge of having a change of heart, I went on and tried to convince her, eventually asking why she was teetering. She told me she really didn't want to but she didn't want me to be upset. I immediately dropped the subject, because I really don't want to seem like the guy that is mad at his girl if he doesn't get any. Our relationship means more than that to me.
Anyway, the more it simmers in my mind the less comfortable I am with what she said. I love this woman more than anything in the world, but I don't know if I can handle a relationship where all we do is intercourse once every couple of months. What I'm getting at, is, what can I say/do to convince her that it's not disgusting, firstly. Secondly, why would she feel this way now? It seems backwards: in the beginning is when I thought she might be grossed out, and gradually grown more comfortable, not totally into and and slowly grown out of it. I am totally confused, and I'm feeling disheartened by the entire situation.
Any advice that you all can give would be highly appreciated.
This post has been edited by Cupio141: Sat Feb 12, 2011 07:25 PM