What do you find boring in bed?
Posted Mon Feb 28, 2011 11:56 AM
Posted Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:46 AM
Posted Sun Mar 06, 2011 11:53 AM
Posted Sun Mar 06, 2011 01:13 PM
As Igor said, though, I'll take "boring" sex over no sex any day too.
Posted Sun Mar 06, 2011 02:51 PM
Posted Sun Mar 06, 2011 02:55 PM
Posted Tue Mar 08, 2011 01:42 PM
amen, same problem here
Posted Wed Mar 09, 2011 06:55 PM
Posted Thu Mar 10, 2011 02:02 AM
Posted Thu Mar 10, 2011 03:32 AM
Talking to her about her fears would be a help, but even before going into those, I'd use some affirmations, to let her know that I'd be open to new things. Sex is often an extension of the rest of the relationship, so when she does something different or unexpected in other aspects of life, I'd let her know how fun and exciting it is to have something new between us. When she asks what we will do on Saturday, or what to have for dinner, saying 'your choice' or 'I like surprises' will send a message that I don't have to have sameness to be satisfied.
Don't wait until we are in the bedroom to begin foreplay: a kiss on the neck as you pass her, a squeeze on her bottom, a look into her eyes that slowly eases down her body. Most women would rather hear 'I want you' than 'I want sex', I believe. Come up behind her and wrap your arms around her, lightly caressing her breasts, pressing your pelvis against her butt; do you become erect? Let her feel it, then release her and step away, maintaining eye contact. Let everything you say and do show how much you want her.
Invite her to take a shower or bath together; let your hands and lips and tongue bathe her before you reach for the soap. Take her hands and place them on your body, inviting her to explore you as well. If she responds, you may find that things get sexual before you turn off the water...
If sexual action only occurs in bed, it's probably as boring for the woman as it is for the man...
Posted Thu Mar 10, 2011 12:02 PM
Lack of presence, imagination, passion, play, celebration.
Lack of nuance.
Repressed and uptight people (Boundaries are fine, I just mean boring uptight people)
Posted Thu Mar 10, 2011 02:01 PM
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 12:55 AM
Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 05:07 AM
Gimme floor, couch, shower or wall any day!
Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 02:07 PM
I had one FWB and by the time things cooled off between us and we stopped seeing each other I was feeling like we'd fallen into a routine. Then I hooked up with a guy I'd had a crush on for a long time and it was awful, disappointing sex. Basically, he climbed on top of me and gave me a couple minutes in missionary before he came. I was just catching my groove and really getting into and then it was over. I didn't even know he'd came because he didn't make a sound. He slid out of me and when I went to reinsert he said "Oh baby, I came". I thought "Huh?"! Ugh. I was left laying next to him, SO sexually frustrated. Then I ended up talking to the FWB months later, and I told him I'd had disappointing sex which had made me appreciate our "routine" so much more. We had a good laugh and ended up hooking up again. So my experience with the disappointing sex has made me able to appreciate good sex that's predictable. Atleast the "routine" sex with the FWB addressed both our needs. The missionary got us both warmed up and into a groove, then we'd switch it into cowgirl -for me, and then into doggy - for him. Everyone wins