What's it mean
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 02:42 PM
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 03:32 PM
It sounds like she trusts you, I woudn't break that trust by barging in on her. I would ask her when she goes into the shower if you can take a shower when she's done. If she wants to take a shower with you she'll invite you to take one with her.
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 04:22 PM
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 04:32 PM
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 06:43 PM
Posted Mon Mar 07, 2011 07:38 PM
Posted Wed Mar 09, 2011 01:01 AM
"is it time for me to hit it?"
That was not a moment for some slang cliché out of a rap video- that was the time for you to be real. Hold her, touch her without a word, let your hands explore her skin. If she responds, kiss her forehead, her cheek, her lips- lightly. Again, if she doesn't push you away or starts talking more bullshit, kiss her mouth more urgently, pull her body to you, always aware of her reaction.
If you must say something, leave out the Mr Cool dialogue (this just isn't you) and simply say "I want you". This gives her the opportunity to truly commit to the moment, or back away if she's not ready.
If she does put on the brakes, leave. Politely, but firmly say that it's time to go. If she questions you, look directly into her eyes and tell her that you don't want to make her uncomfortable; if you stay, you may not be comfortable, either. If she still protests, listen to her, but you still have to leave.
Again, this is about being real- whatever she wants to do is not cool. Teasing is fun at times, but only when both people understand it and agree to play the game. Many women have been told repeatedly that it is okay to say 'no' at any time, and I agree with that.
So can you.
A naked woman that I've never been sexual with laying up on me, saying "let's enjoy the movie" is a signal that the tease could get messy; I'd walk away. Not angry, not pitiful, just 'gotta go'.
The next time you talk to her about getting together, tell her "Do me a favor: when I come over, keep your clothes on. When you're naked, I see that as a signal that something sexual is happening; if you're naked in front of me, I have no interest in a movie."
If she still wants to do the tease game, I suggest you leave her alone. As I say, teasing is a fun game between lovers, but you two are not lovers. If you clearly state your feelings and she doesn't respect them, it stops being a tease and becomes a power play. The only thing you have power over is whether you choose to play.
Trust me- you would not want this to go any further down that road.
This post has been edited by ScottyWright: Wed Mar 09, 2011 01:07 AM
Posted Sun Mar 13, 2011 01:00 AM
Posted Sun Mar 13, 2011 01:30 PM
nice work on clearing all that up. Was making me horny just hearing about all the games she was playing with you and I was not even there!!! Glad she was straight with you, and that your feeling you might see her honest side comming out in the future!!
you my friend have some sound logic, will be looking for more of your posts in the future!!