Women who do not orgasm through penetration
Posted Fri Jan 05, 2007 11:41 PM
So what is your routine, we all kinda have one who have been in a relationship for a long while. Also, is there a way for her to get hers during sex. I have bought one of those vibrating cock rings, but that did not work. Do some of you finger yourselves during sex? Also, while she can get the O on her own, she is too shy to finger herself infront of me....even after 7 years of marriage.
I totally love this woman and just want to make sex great for her, which makes it great for me. Any ideas?
Posted Fri Jan 05, 2007 11:48 PM
As far as trying to make her cum via penetration, I will let BBW know... he knows how to do it.
You are not alone.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 12:16 AM
I used to could only do this in missionary with my legs straight and my toes pointed with my ass cheeks squeezed when I get close, thats because when i do it alone thats my position. It was easy to masterbate in this position but when i got closer to climax I'd close my legs involintarally and push him out, so I started practicing masterbatteng in the doggy position and fount that with your legs under you it is easy to point the toes and tighten the ass (I have no idea why I do that, but i seem to not be able to cum with out doing so) and i was able to climax after a bit, expecially if he could ride fast and actually last long.
definitly get her to masterbate infront of you!!! That should not be secret in a sexual relationship, thats probably one of the reasons she is haveing trouble comeing, she is obviously not relaxed, so self aware that it is distracting to the point of not being able to climax. If she is able to let go while you do oral, then it should not be hard for you to get her into touching it herself. Next time you do oral, (after you get her moaning that it feels good, but before she cums) while you lick at her clit and finger fuck her use your free hand to pull down her hand, the one she writes with, and slide it against her body until you reach her V zone. stop lickking and TELL her to rub her clit for you please. If she refuses tell her that it would be such a turn on for you to see her playing with her clit, that you have been fantasizing it for some time. Be sure to keep the finger fucking up to keep her reved up and more in the sexual mood.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 12:56 AM
The masterbation thing is a must, once she can come in front of you by herself you can have her use you like a dildo while she masterbates. I think it may be important for her to 'control' the amount and speed of penetration for that too. Once that hurdle is over more 'experimentation' is in order.
PC muscle excersizes can't be a bad idea either, they are known to increase the frequency and intensity of orgams for both men and women.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 01:41 AM
You are still at risk for pregnancy cuz of pre-cum.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 02:31 AM
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 12:53 PM
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 01:36 PM
You can try to rub her clit while she's on top and you're fucking her, but I never really cared for that. Too many sensations at once? I'm not really sure why but just didn't like it.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just because we don't cum, doesn't mean we aren't completely sexually satisfied!
First and foremost, talk openly about this to your wife. She'll know best what she wants.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 01:42 PM
Also, I used to be one of those women who could not cum through penetration but masturbation got me off just fine. However, as I got more comfortable not only with my partners but more importantly with myself I have become one of those women who (esp with my current boyfriend) can easily have several orgasms in one session. All of them through penetration and in various positions.
Your wife may be able to get off during masturbation on her own but it is still going to take some time for this to work for her even if she consents to do it in front of you. Everything new takes time to get used to and fully enjoy. As she gets more comfortable with herself, and masturbating in front of you may be an excellent place for her to start, she may even become one of those women who can orgasm from penetration.
Posted Sat Jan 06, 2007 09:03 PM
As a side note, we are not worried about getting pregnant so much. We have 2 kids already.
Anymore information is welcome. Especially ideas on how to get her to masterbate infront of me.