This post has been edited by captain91: Wed Apr 27, 2011 08:47 AM
Honesty in Relationships
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 08:45 AM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 08:49 AM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 09:43 AM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 09:55 AM
i completely get the "do these make my butt look big?" lie, and i understand that kind of lie, its the kind like "do you really love me" or things like those that i think should be honest.
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 11:43 AM
We're teaching each other how to answer honestly without offending the other and working it through it very nicely though. I can't wait!
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 02:35 PM
It sucks for now, but don't go changing how you are because a girl couldn't handle honesty.
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 05:01 PM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 06:23 PM
While I agree with the other posts, that honesty is always best, I would like to suggest a different answer with the next gf. If you are asked this question again just give a wry smile and respond "I guess we'll just have to find out, won't we?"
If you allow yourself to get forced into a corner to admitting being inexperienced at something, make it be about fixing the plumbing under the sink.
Once you are comfortable with having sex with one another and truly pleasing each other in bed, telling her you were a virgin will be a pleasure
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 07:20 PM
I believe in being able to trust your partner completely and giving them that same respect, but I also think there's such a thing as too much honesty. Like little white lies make relationships (and friendships) manageable sometimes, not even going to lie about that lol
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 09:02 PM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 11:03 PM
Posted Wed Apr 27, 2011 11:31 PM
Even in those 'do these jeans make me look fat' type questions I think need to be answered honestly. I also feel that a TRUE relationship where both parties really want to be open and honest with each other they need to be properly prepared for the open and honest answers to all aspects whether you like it or not. I don't really understand why someone would be ticked off if they asked a question, expected an honest answer and GOT an answer that was honest but it wasn't what they 'wanted' to hear. I know some folk are more sensitive to some points than others, so I guess do whatever works for you. I guess I am just tired of that kind of b.s. and am more of a no nonsense kind of guy.
Just my thoughts on the issue. I am happy to let folks have differing opinions and live their lives however they want.
As far as the original poster's situation, it sounds like she did YOU a favor by getting out. If she is going to be upset because of your honesty about your history then good riddance.
Posted Thu Apr 28, 2011 02:05 PM
Posted Thu Apr 28, 2011 02:55 PM
Posted Thu Apr 28, 2011 04:24 PM
Posted Thu Apr 28, 2011 04:37 PM
Because of that I have sworn to always be honest in every relationship. I'd prefer something to end because of incompatibility than the inability to know what is and what is not the truth.
Posted Thu Apr 28, 2011 09:36 PM
That being said I will just say that it really depends on the 2 people, if you're SO wants you to be completely honest with them and they get upset when you are, then you either need to not tell the whole truth/white lie/lie or leave the relationship. (still you have several choices, not just one.) Same goes for the flip scenario. (There are choices I haven't even included)
I have never cheated on my wife, although some ppl think that flirting or cybersex or other online things are cheating, I do not, I have never cheated on her and yet she is extremely jealous of me and I cannot even get phone calls from other women without her getting upset if she finds out. So my way of lying is to not get calls from other women, which by the way has no sexual connotation whatsoever, but I'll FB or MySpace or use some other form of online communication, like this one:) to communicate with that women, even if it is to just say hello.
Posted Fri Apr 29, 2011 08:18 AM
Posted Fri Apr 29, 2011 10:58 AM