Posted Fri May 20, 2011 10:49 PM
Posted Fri May 20, 2011 11:03 PM
So you can have sex all day everyday and as long as you don't go through a withdraw your not addicted?
Posted Sat May 21, 2011 01:32 AM
Addiction is when it impacts your life in a negative way but you cannot stop.
Posted Sat May 21, 2011 04:12 AM
Well you can stop doing anything if you try hard enough...
Posted Sun May 22, 2011 01:37 PM
Will definitely have a look.
Posted Thu May 26, 2011 10:37 AM
Not necessarily. Willpower and/or effort isn't always enough, especially when it comes to addiction.
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 10:31 PM
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Posted Fri Jun 03, 2011 08:32 PM
Posted Sun Jun 05, 2011 01:32 AM
- Preoccupation: continual fantasies about sexual prospects or situations, which can trigger episodes of sexual "acting-out" - I continually fantasize about sex all the time:)
- Ritualization: a preferred sexual activity or situation is often stereotyped and repetitive - masturbation:)
- Compulsion: continual engagement in sexual activity despite negative consequences and desire to stop - masturbation:)
- Despair: guilt or shame over inability to control behavior or feel remorse - once again masturbation:)
- Other behavioral problems, particularly chemical dependency and eating disorders - uhhh, then it wouldn't be a "sexual" addiction, if other things are going on...
This post has been edited by imortalisle: Sun Jun 05, 2011 01:32 AM
Posted Sun Jun 05, 2011 06:54 AM
Now, if someone had been diagnosed with sex addiction, they wouldn't be here...
And sex addiction pertains to an individual who's constantly preoccupied with having sex with other people, and going to great lengths to fulfill that preoccupation. Masturbation wouldn't be enough for a sex addict... They would need to go out there and actually act upon their desires. In your case, since you're married... It would imply you'd go out of your marriage to get the sex that doesn't get supplied at home, thus creating rifts in your marriage. Then, you'd be constantly planning to have sex with someone else during working hours to the point htat it would be interfering with your work performance.
You're not an addict because you masturbate constantly... That means that your compulsive and obsessive about orgasms, but are you actually trying to have sex with others? If not, then you're not an addict... Just leave it a the OCD level.
Now, all addictions have the same approach for treatment... They strive for sobriety, meaning, in your case you'd have to stop masturbating, and the only way you could have a "fix" is when you have sex with your wife. If that idea doesn't sound appealing, then you may have problems, but again, sexual addition it is not.
BTW, I find self-diagnistics a bit presumptuous... Don't do that, see a therapist if you think you have a problem, especially if it's interfering in your relationships.
ETA: it has always baffled me how come married people come to this site. I come here because I cannot have sex at will... So, this is how I ruminate about my lack of sex. Now, I understand if the wives want nothing to see with sex or if you do it together with your wife as a form of "fun"; but I've never been able to understand those who say they love their wives, they're attracted to them and have sex as often as they want...
This post has been edited by Olive: Sun Jun 05, 2011 07:00 AM
Posted Mon Jun 06, 2011 01:51 PM
I'll definitely check that out, I'm also in the dark about a lot of it and I feel that my addiction is taking over my life
Posted Mon Jun 06, 2011 02:31 PM
Now I'm certainly not saying this is wrong, I just feel it's not 'me'. I feel out of myself doing it.
I've only done it a few times and in honesty, the satisfaction I get is minimal. Nothing feels good or right about it afterwards.
My fascination with porn spiralled from normal stuff to hardcore, to more extreme stuff. I've been pushing my limits constantly with the porn I 'ingest'. I emphasise on the 'pushing my limits' because I've masturbated to stuff that doesn't even turn me on. It's the obsessionof getting off on a visual material.
Now the real problem lies in the fact that I currently feel pretty hollow inside. Fortunately for me, I've always been a solitary person who doesn't necessarily need or crave attention as much as some.
However, i don't seem to desire partners on a level beyond semi-anonymous sex. I want to want someone again rather than think 'think I'll just go home and have a wank instead, save the bother'.
So yesterday I took the first step to weaning myself off my obsession with pornography and self satisfaction. It hasn't been easy and it's probably going to be a nightmare. I'm ashamed to say pornography has taken a firm grip (no pun intended) over my life for the past 2 years save for the handful of promiscuous sexual encounters.
So here's to (agonising) new beginnings and the quest to find myself yet again.
Posted Mon Jun 06, 2011 02:45 PM
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Posted Thu Sep 29, 2011 01:34 PM
Very well said, Q.
Posted Fri Sep 30, 2011 08:08 AM