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honestly I don't really see how this is even an issue, unless he doesn't know you're bi (or I guess "were bi" is the proper phrasing? Of course the phrase "always been bi" is pretty explicit, you have always been attracted to or enjoyed emotional and/or physical contact with both sexes roughly equally) - the fact that you married him and had kids with him means you love him (or did at one time anyway, but that's a whole separate topic) and that you enjoyed sex with him enough to do it until you were pregnant twice... so you prefer women now... so what? if you were always bi, then you always liked women sexually. After falling in love presumably, being married and having kids, why would you suddenly conclude you're a lesbian? Sounds to me like this has more to do with some problems you're having with your husband than it does with sexual identity. I may be wrong, but if it sounds fishy, it usually is.
And to be frank, true desires or not, your kids come first, that is not a negotiable item - their welfare and needs are more important than your desires, you accepted that responsibility when you became a parent. There is no abrogating that responsibility without loss of honor, regardless of how you may feel. I'd be the first to tout LGBT rights, but that comes second to the rights of your children, Mom. If whatever you do would have any kind of negative impact on their lives, it's wrong.
This post has been edited by HumanBreeder1973: Tue Jul 05, 2011 12:47 AM
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Posted Tue Jul 05, 2011 07:50 AM
Secondly, I don't assume anything, she stated right in her post she's "always been bi" so then she is likely to have had sex with women, and therefore knows how that makes her feel, having sex with women now won't be this grand revelation you seem to think it'll be. The thing is, if it breaks up her marriage, there will be fallout for the kids, and it also matters what they feel about their Mom deciding she'd rather be with another women than be with Dad, that can be a psychological nightmare for some kids... for others, not so. The thing is, it's a minefield, and no matter what she does she has to tread lightly.
Thirdly, societal pressure made her marry and have kids? come on, unless it was an arranged marriage (and I doubt that is the case) she made a conscious decision somewhere in there, society isn't responsible for her losing her virginity, or for her getting pregnant or carrying TWO kids to term and raising them. And no, her husband is only 50% responsible. She had to do something in all that, and choose to do it. So get off your soapbox and start thinking, and try to give her some good, well considered advice instead of pushing your own brand of societal pressure on her.
And fourthly (damn that sounds strange), who are you to question what I can know or understand? I state I'm curious because I want to play with guys, but am not particularly attracted to guys, nor have I done anything yet with a guy, so yes. I am curious. And I know what I want right now. That doesn't mean I don't have feelings or a brain, it means I am in control of my feelings and my brain. I can certainly understand, and I understand you protest too much. Just because you had to fight and scrape to get your identity as a lesbian accepted, doesn't mean every lesbian (or bisexual) has to. So again I refer you to point 3. Have a nice day.
And since I had no intention of starting a fight, just trying to help... Nymphadora, I wish you the best of luck, no matter how this works out. Hope to hear more from you on this in any case, details help us to help you.
In speaking with my wife about this (she's Bi), we discussed such a scenario, and came to the conclusion that if she decided she wanted to be with women only, I would give her my blessing, I'd find myself a girlfriend, and we'd do our separate things, but we'd still be married and stay together because we love each other and our sexual orientation won't change our emotions toward each other. That's why I say it sounds like problems at home, not sexual identity. It just doesn't make much sense, but perhaps there's not enough real information given?
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Posted Tue Jul 05, 2011 10:09 AM
Hmm... Mackgirl can't be bothered to read, either... if you check my profile, I'm a guy... never said I wasn't. Thanks for the mini story tho, I got a good wank out of it
I know we're all programmed by what we see and hear everyday... and by peer pressure and opinions. I don't deny that. But if you can say you think for yourself in such an atmosphere, then so can I and anyone else, what's good for the goose after all...
There's a fine line between raising awareness and being militant and obnoxious. Granted that's what the ignore button is for but I'm not like that. I value all opinions, even ones I don't agree with. But it still seems like you're a little over the top about all this, making me think you're not as secure in your identity as you want to believe. Whatever. Not my problem.
I ask again, Nymphadora, any more info? It might help...
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Posted Tue Jul 05, 2011 10:36 AM
If the "Gender " to the left there didn't give it away, how about the "38, Male" on my profile?
I'm as qualified as anyone else here. And I can read to boot
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that's the beauty of a good face to face cunt on thigh grinding my honey,you are indeed able to do lots of other really sexy things as well with your hands being free to grope,caress.....mmmmm one girl i macked wanted me to finger her arse as we writhed together which i was happy to do because it made her gyrate her arse like crazy and grind her nylon clad thigh on my willing cunt and kiss me even more lustily!some girls,like me,like to grind all the time but yes also adding some variety is very nice too!