The second season of Advice.
Posted Sat Feb 10, 2007 08:45 PM
From time to time, I get mail from guys who claim to have asked women about my dating tips. According to them, women "hate" my dating tips.
Whenever I hear this, I laugh.
Men often think that when they ask women for dating advice, thwy will get "wisdom" straight from the source.
Listen men ...
When you ask a woman for advice (or what they think of my advice) they will often give yo what they THINK or "feel" is right (according to society's norms, of course...)
After all, what people "say" is not always what they really want.
If a woman asks a guy if he's attracted to women with HOT bodies, he'll probably say "No". Instead of admitting that he DOES lust for women with great bodies, he'll probably tell the woman that he cares more about a woman's personality and intelligence rather than the looks.
Not completely true.
Even though the guy may like intelligent women, it still does NOT rule out the fact that he is *also* attracted to gorgeous women. (C'mon, can a woman be BOTH hot and smart?)
See the problem with just asking a person for his/her opinion?
They may give you some good advice mixed in with some bad ... and in the end you'll get a mix of half-truths that will do you more harm than good.
Here's my advice: Don't bother to ask women for advice when it relates to dating.
Instead, OBSERVE what *works* in the real world.
I'm not someone who never listens to women. I hear what they have to say for themselves all the time. But more than that, I OBSERVE what they DO.
I don't really care what women have to say. What matters more is observing what they do. If women tell me that they find geeky guys attractive but only date jocks, I don't listen to them. Rather, I oberve what I see.
You should do the same. Start observing what women like from now on, and I PROMISE you your success with women will increase within the next ten months.
Posted Sat Feb 10, 2007 08:58 PM
Good luck in weathering the storm. And with posts like that, perhaps it is good that "You dont really care what women have to say", because I think they might start saying it.......... NOW!
Posted Sun Feb 11, 2007 01:09 AM
I can't say anything that will enlighten Advice. He just won't understand what the hell I'm talking about.
Posted Sun Feb 11, 2007 01:44 AM
If you have to ask, you shouldn't be giving advice about anything to anybody.
Posted Sun Feb 11, 2007 01:55 AM
anyway i agree, actions speak louder than words. it does work the same both ways.
Posted Sun Feb 11, 2007 02:06 AM
Posted Sun Feb 11, 2007 04:05 PM
I would like advice on how to find someone to date, and then date them with out fucking and yet still keep them intrested. I have never actually dated, but I have had plenty of one night stands. Unfortunitly when I have sex with someone right off the bat I tend to not ask them out again. I have a problem saying no, when I really want sex. But I want a relationship, so I need to be able to say no to sex and do it in a way that would not run them off. I mean, how do you go about getting a date, and turning it into going steady? When is it right to ask for them to be with you only. I know you can't expect them to comit right away, but how do you know if they are the dateing and comiting type before you ask them out so as to avoid all the mixed emotions. I want them to be intrested in me sexually of course, but I don't want them to think all i want is to fuck. I think I send out mixed signals and I'm not sure how to avoid that..... so there ya go advice, I am asking for your advice on this... can you help me?