Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 04:28 AM
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 04:35 AM
Some hints I might offer are , number one "Relax" don't try to plan out every detail or rush any of this , just take your time & savor each second as it happens . Two "Set the Mood" light a few candles , have a good meal first or something relaxing & romantic , with her sex is 95% emotional , mood dictates how she'll want you later . My best to you .
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 09:24 AM
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 03:08 PM
Don't worry about trying to last longer. It's not all about how long you can last before ejaculating. It's more about how long the evening lasts. Don't rush the foreplay...enjoy it and let the anticipation build. And find a way to keep her interest alive until you are ready for round two. No matter how quick you came the first time, you'll last longer the second...and the third time.
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 05:11 PM
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 06:07 PM
Also if you do who cares. Cumming is kind of the point right?
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 06:09 PM
It's good to be able to last long, but it's not about "lasting as long as possible".
When I have sex I can go on and on without cumming, to the degree that it's very hard for me to cum during vaginal sex. The good thing is that it has made me able to give some great sex and orgasms to the few girls I have been with (I lost my virginity at the age of 20). But it has also been really frustrating to me and some of the girls that I'm so hard to satisfy. Girls also want to satisfy their guy, but with me that's not so easy. I can enjoy vaginal sex a lot, but it normally doesn't get me off.
If you're good at controlling yourself while masturbating, then I think it's a sign that you can last long when you have sex. The "training" probably works. But don't overdo it, or else you end up with the same problem as me, asking "How can I last shorter in bed?"
As it has already been said, sex is not all about enduarance. Passion, playfulness, variation and creativity are things that have made sex better in my experience.
Wish you a good first time when that happens, and don't worry too much
Posted Fri Jun 17, 2011 09:58 PM
This post has been edited by lynneK: Fri Jun 17, 2011 09:58 PM
Posted Sat Jun 18, 2011 02:54 PM
Don't worry too much about that. I think most women would find that quite complimentary...especially if she knows it's your first time. But if you are prepared and have a proper setting you can continue to pleasure her...or at least hold her and cuddle for a while until you are ready for round two. A little planing and some preparation is a good idea. Don't plan, or script the sex...let that just flow naturally...but plan the 'situation'. I private location where you won't be disturbed or rushed for example. Also have a decent supply of condoms on hand...but don't pull out a box of 48. If you can, avoid having your first time in the front seat of a car parked in a view point. Take it from me...that make it a little too rushed. Check out some of the other threads on this site to learn some basic foreplay techniques. Remember that most women do not orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Just relax and plan on spending the night together if at all possible. You are young, and will probably have very little trouble in engaging in intercourse several times in the same evening. And if you apply some basic foreplay skills with it, I'm sure you'll both have a wonderful time and very pleasant memories. Good luck.
Posted Sat Jun 18, 2011 03:34 PM
Posted Sat Jun 18, 2011 03:46 PM
Posted Sat Jun 18, 2011 03:51 PM
I will tell you of my first time...and believe me I had the same concerns. And guess what? First time, I lasted a solid 20-25 seconds. Yup. Awful, right? But then...about 15 minutes later, by unit decided that he enjoyed that whole endeavor and wanted more. That's where the beauty of the 2nd and 3rd orgasm kicks in, it takes WAY longer to get your 2nd, and even longer for your third. So yeah, first time was 25 seconds, the second time, about 15 minutes later, was an hour and 15 minutes...yes, I watched the clock I admit it.
But also, google something called PE exercises for something called the PC muscle, if you're not already familiar....edging is good, but hard and frustrating. Just do some PC flexes everyday when you're working at your desk or watching TV at home, and then YOU, not your penis, will decide when its time to get off.
Posted Sat Jun 18, 2011 10:02 PM
So remember, take it easy, go with the flow and above all else enjoy yourself and she will too.