Comming out as bisexual there is a girl i always liked and finally asked her out
Posted Sat Jul 02, 2011 05:32 PM
We lost touch, but i would see her sometimes and all the feelings would come back.
After being on this forum and reading about different experiences, is like i got in touch with my bisexual side, and as i always expected to have a chance with her in the future but she was in a relationship and so was i, now we are both singles.
I tried to reach her on facebook leaving subtle comments which she never answered, so i send her a PM saying sorry i was such a jerk in the past but i really want to be friends with u. No answer.
So i texted to her mobile saying i left a message for u on fb please read it and pls answer. She said, of course i ll meet u for coffee but what do u say u were such a jerk? I told her, cause i knew u had feelings for me and i was such and ass, i was young and stupid, and she pretended she didnt remembered me, like : oh u are this tall girl, well, i though u were cool and a nice person but that was all. I mean we used to meet last year at the supermarket and would chat....
So i went straight ahead and told her, listen this is not easy for me, it took me long time to get here, all these years i couldnt forget about u, i think u are amazing and i really like u, and want to spend time with u, i want to ask u out on a date.
So she called me and said she was surprised and that she was comming out of a relationship and she wasnt really dating, so i told her i just wanted one date and see how it goes...no pressure...She finally agreed to go on a date with me YEEEEEEYYYYY
That was yesterday, i send her a goodnite message and a goodmorning cant wait to see u , this morning, she explained she was busy cause she cooks for partys at nigth and teaches during the day, so she is booked the entired week, but the comming week she will try to make some time for our date.
My question is, this is my first time asking a girl out, i dont know about the dynamics, since i took the first step should i be the one to lead things, like call first, text first, how often can i text call her, how do i know if she is into me or only being nice, i called her gorgeous, and stuff like that but she only refers to me as girl, like buddies, she says she s still very surprised, today we texted for a while....
How much interest can i show her without her feeling pressured or thinking i am needy or clingy....any tips appreciated....and dont get me started on sex, never been with a girl, have no idea what to do......how long should i wait? i mean should i let her take the first step......if we do have a date, how do i get her to date me again............
its a whole new world.....
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Posted Mon Jul 04, 2011 09:25 AM
sounds like you're contacting her too much. while you might have a small shared history, you're basically strangers. I think injecting yourself into her everyday life (texting her have a nice day at work for instance) could be construed as a little overwhelming.
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Posted Mon Jul 04, 2011 10:57 PM
The bad thing is that i told 2 of my best girlfriends and they are not being very supportive, one said straight away that her family wont approve of me and is not going to be the same between us, like we can "talk" and stuff, but we used to be like sister since highschool, i never thought anything could tear us appart, the other one took it more lighty just teasing me, so i am not sure how she is really feeling, i am scared i will loose my friends over this.....
My sister also thinks i am feeling "lonely" and thats y i am doing this but she said if i am happy shes happy but not to tell my parents cause they would die!!!!
Anyways, ppl here is very ignorant about the whole subject....
Posted Fri Jul 08, 2011 06:33 AM
You want her, and that's fine but you've got to be open to the idea that she might not want you now.
Give it a break for a few days... then update us
Posted Fri Jul 08, 2011 01:05 PM
Thanks a lot, i ll keep u post it.
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Posted Tue Jul 12, 2011 11:14 AM
Exactly, thats what i need to do, i guess i feel so guilty for hiding my feelings for so long....and now that it is all in the open mayb i am scared that if i wait too long i wont have the courage to tell her how i feel in person.....i am also goin through tons of problems with my family and mayb i am looking for a distraction of that ......no that i dont have feelings for her....well i ll try to think about something else and hopefully i ll still have a chance to meet her in the future.....so no texts till sunday....i can do it.....thanks a lot....
Posted Tue Jul 12, 2011 11:17 AM