Talking sex with parents.
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 06:44 AM
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 07:06 AM
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 07:33 AM
Sexual education shouldn't be left to one single talk when it's probably too late. It's a constant conversation based on trust and respect.
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 07:38 AM
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 07:44 AM
These days I'm talking to my son about internet porn... He knows about it, but so far he says he's not interested.
I don't think I'm ready to talk to him about my sex life. He doesn't know I have one to begin with...
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 08:11 AM
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 08:23 AM
Posted Thu Jul 07, 2011 01:56 PM
I've always been close with my mom. I feel more like we're friends now that I'm an adult. But I've never felt comfortable talking to her about sex - I never really even talked to my friends about sex. When my period first started, my mom helped me with that, and she always told me that I should be careful so that I didn't have an accident (i.e. so that I didn't get knocked up), but I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23, so that was never a problem when I was in high school and college. My mom knows that I have sex with my guy. We live together and have been living together for quite some time; we've been together for almost five years and are engaged. It's safe for my mom to assume that we have sex, LOL. But I don't talk about my sex life with her at all. She has a boyfriend - and she's been with him for ten years or something, and they live together, so I think it's safe for me to assume that they have sex, but she doesn't talk to me about her sex life either. And I did tell one female friend when I lost my virginity. She the only one I've ever talked about sex with, but we don't even talk about sex very often or in detail. I feel much more open and can discuss my sex life much more freely here because of the anonymity, I think. I can use more "vulgar" words and not feel embarrassed about it. I just don't think I'll ever have that sort of relationship/friendship with anyone except my guy. He's the only one I talk about sex with in any detail because he's the one I'm having sex with. But I don't really talk about sex outside my relationship (except for here).
However, that's not to say that my experience should be everybody's either. I think that it's totally normal for parents to talk to their kids about sex at an age-appropriate level. For example, as Olive said, sex education needs to be continuous from a young age. But the topics of discussion should be age-appropriate. If you were a young child, then your mother shouldn't be telling you that she had sex a couple of days ago. But she should be talking to you about your body, and the topics will change as the child gets older. Now that you're an adult, you and your mother can talk about sexual topics like adults, which means that you have been introduced to the idea that she's a grown woman with physical needs - and it's great that you feel comfortable talking to her about your sex life. It's also normal for people to talk to their friends (especially friends of the same gender) about their sex lives. Guys talk about sex with each other, girls talk about sex with each other, and guys talk about sex with girls and vice versa.
Posted Wed Jul 13, 2011 02:46 PM
This post has been edited by curiousinmo: Wed Jul 13, 2011 02:47 PM