One Night Stands Opinions appreciated
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 04:27 AM
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 04:47 AM
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 05:08 AM
I think many guys don't like that idea, that womon had have ons or with many other guys, on the other side they think if a guy had been with many woman. He is a great stut.
for me it makes no difference, but i don't care about it what was before i met my husband, sure i asked and i know that there where other, but i don't think about it,
you have to get over it, you can do nothing about, it happend in the past, why is it that important to you? She decided to be with you and loves you,
She was young and just wanted fun thats all.
i hope this help you a little
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 03:24 PM
In short, dont sweat it man. But if it really bothers you it's probably best you discuss it calmly with her.
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 03:41 PM
I just wanted you, OP, to first be aware how right Jade is. Very simply she is completely right and I think you know that already too.
I bolded that statement though because I want you to know, Everything she did in her past made her who she is today! Without knowing it, you've been loving the woman she became because of those events. You love her how she is, and you cant change anything she went through, good or bad. Maybe take solace in that?
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 04:18 PM
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 06:20 PM
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 06:35 PM
No point in dealing with something that's already way gone into the past... Might as well use the information to be creative about the present, don't you think?
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 07:22 PM
That's really all it is, brother. If you had a bevy of bims in your historical stable, this would be less of an issue for you.
Let it go. She didn't know you. You didn't know her. If you didn't marry her and weren't with her now, you wouldn't be on here, bothered that a chick you didn't marry had some one night stands. And none of it can be undone. I'm glad you don't feel embarrassed about your thought process when others vocalized their disagreement. I, too, place more emphasis on sex, with whom and how it's shared, than most others. I had the same issue when mine, too.
But to offer some help, consider this : Yes, those other guys 'attained' it easier than you may like...but she kept you around for some reason, but not them. You have to realize that this is the degree of separation: Those one night stands were one and done...With you, she stayed around for more.
Posted Wed Aug 10, 2011 10:12 PM
I think it's true that someone who has had a bunch of one night stands has a slightly different character than someone who hasn't had any and wouldn't have any.
But then again, as a guy, I find it hard to believe that you haven't at least been tempted to have one in the past if you were strongly attracted to someone and they were also coming on to you really strongly.
Posted Wed Aug 10, 2011 11:20 PM
To put things in perspective, many , many guys have one night stands. The woman doesn't want to see him after the first time.
Not only one night stands, but my wife and I have watched each other have sex with others, before we ever started to date each other. I have pictured her sucking cock and getting fucked many times over and over in my mind. She said she will never forget watching me having sex with her friend. Your lady sounds normal to me.
Posted Thu Aug 11, 2011 12:19 PM
Not for everyone perhaps.
Having sex with someone where there's little serious emotions involved is just another life experience.
It doesn't make her a slut and you should be grateful she got it out of her system before you got together.
Posted Thu Aug 11, 2011 03:57 PM
- you can be upset that your precious flower has a past
- or you can celebrate the fact that your wife has a libido and an open mind, and get busy setting her on fire daily.
Posted Thu Aug 11, 2011 04:02 PM
Posted Thu Aug 11, 2011 04:17 PM
If she hasnt done it since you have been together then i dont see anything to worry about. Yes it does seem slutty but again it was before you got together. in my opinion she may have been a slut/whore before. but maybe meeting u might have changed her. take it from me, trust her. let the past go. the more u think about it the more its gonna get to u
Posted Fri Aug 12, 2011 07:10 PM
Posted Sat Aug 13, 2011 03:49 AM
It's just a moment of everything coming together and just letting yourself go. That's what a lot of people do in college so my advice is let it go.
If you still feel bad about it, talk to your wife to it. If you tell her how you feel about it I'm sure she will understand and reassure you.
Posted Sat Aug 13, 2011 04:30 AM
Posted Sat Aug 13, 2011 04:37 AM
I agree with you totally.
i think its just a guy thing.
My man has always had a problem that ive even been with other guys and that my number is higher then his