To give or receive
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 04:27 PM
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Posted Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:56 PM
Exactly, I don't think that it matters either
Posted Fri Aug 19, 2011 03:42 PM
Posted Fri Aug 19, 2011 03:53 PM
Is a woman who likes receiving anal gay? Is a woman who prefers penetrating her partner with a strap-on less gay or more gay? Because there are women who like to receive anal sex and there are women who prefer to give via a strap-on. Do their preferences impact their sexual orientations? If your answer is No, then why is it different for men? (If your answer is Yes, then I eagerly await your reasoning.)
As I noted in another recent thread about receiving anal sex and sexual identity, the two have very little in common. Yes, a gay/bi man is likelier to try anal sex (and be open about admitting that he likes it, if he does) than a straight man is, but that doesn't mean that a straight man doesn't have the pleasure receptors, too.
A man is attracted only to other men (and not to women) and does not enjoy the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he gay? Sure! Just being the catcher doesn't feel as good as being the pitcher.
A man is attracted to both men and women and does not enjoy the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he bi? Sure! Just, like with the gay man above, he prefers giving rather than receiving.
A man is attracted only to women (and not to other men) and very much enjoys the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he straight? Sure! Just he really enjoys the feeling of his ass being stimulated from the inside. Huzzah for strap-ons and straight/bi women who like to use them!
So, if you want to measure your "gayness," then focus on how much you prefer men over women. You'll need another term to figure out where you are on the prefer-pitching-vs-catching scale.
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2017 07:06 PM
Never had a guys ass or a guy in mine.
But I would fuck like a porn star. Believe me my ass that moment is going to be a pussy. If it works out that I love getting fucked it will be a regular activity.
Posted Thu Jan 19, 2017 02:04 PM
I ever get the opportunity to bend guy over.
I'm going to unload in them.
If they want me to bend over after.
Spread my cheeks let them cum!.
I'm going to be the best fuck I can be.
Posted Sat Aug 12, 2017 02:21 PM
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Posted Mon Aug 21, 2017 11:29 AM
Im with you there.
Posted Thu Aug 24, 2017 12:04 AM
Posted Fri Sep 08, 2017 12:34 PM
Posted Mon Sep 11, 2017 10:05 PM
Being a gay man, perhaps I can add something to this conversation!
First, for people who don't care for labels, fine. but I'm quite happy to be gay, and enjoy it greatly when my boyfriend calls me that. Only a small handful of other VERY close friends know I'm gay.
So let's talk about anal sex. There are a lot of straight men out there that enjoy enjoy fucking women in the ass, so there's nothing that distinctly defines the giving of anal sex as necessarily gay or straight. I'll admit that for a man to fuck another man in the ass would be quite the reach for a straight man, but getting the cock up a tight hole is what men are hardwired to do, and for some, a man for a woman could become an opportune substitution.
On the other side of the coin, there are a lot of straight men out there that recognize their high capacity for anal arousal, and welcome and enjoy penetration. As in the giving case, receiving anal penetration doesn't distinctly make one gay or straight either, though some men who might happily take a strap-on worn by a woman up the butt might find it harder to accept taking a man's dick. Again, though, in the right situation, many men who enjoy anal penetration would be willing to make that substitution.
So, in the psychological sense, neither the giving nor the receiving of anal sex is "gayer" than the other. It's simply the enjoyment of sexual and sensual stimulation in the way men find pleasure.
But let's talk about oral sex. Every man I've ever known loves a blowjob, and as in the anal sex scenarios, some men who think of themselves as straight could accept oral sex from another man in the right situation. Even JFK, quintessentially straight and a well-known lothario and philanderer, happily accepted the oral attention of his gay friend, and often.
But GIVING another man oral sex is an act that is quite defining. When you have another man's cock in your mouth, and you're sucking him with the intent of bringing him sensual pleasure and sexual release, you're doing so because you're finding emotional and psychological pleasure in the act of sucking dick. You are experiencing pleasure and arousal from giving HIM pleasure, and from having his cock in your mouth. Sucking cock is a bridge too far for a truly straight guy.
Given the above, I would offer that the desire and the willingness to suck another man's dick is "gayer" than the other three. And by the way, we gay guys suck dick because we absolutely LOVE sucking dick! We adore every moment we get to spend with a man's cock in our mouth, we'll never turn down the chance to give a blowjob, and we always seek every opportunity to improve our fellatio skills! Hey, we have cocks, too, and we know how to make a man feel incredible! Oh, and most of us love semen, so finishing a blowjob, eagerly taking the man's cum in the mouth, and happily swallowing, is what we do!